Teaching is Relentless; Be Extra

Last year I took four of my high school students to a nearby middle school to talk about writing. We had a great time, and on the way home, they started talking about new teachers in our school.

“It’s always an interesting social experiment when you get a brand-new teacher,” said Michael. “You can just see them wear out before your eyes.”

“Yes, yes!” they all chimed in.

I laughed.  “Oh surely not. They’re young. They have boundless energy.”

“No, it’s not like that. They’re enthusiastic up to a point in the semester—” Katrin said.

“—and then they just give up,” David said.

“Do you mean the kids are mean to them?” I asked.

“No, it’s not even that,” Jenna said. “They just give up.”

“They literally break down by degrees,” said Katrin.

As I return for my 24thyear, I think about all the new teachers who will be entering the classroom for the first time.  Lots of optimism, nervous anticipation, maybe a little dread. You’ve prepared your plans, you’ve arranged your room. What is waiting for you, however, is something you cannot possibly plan for, arrange, or anticipate. The first year of teaching is like the first crush, the first heartache, the first roller coaster, the first house fire all wrapped up into one.

Managing a classroom of teenagers for the first time is a difficult thing; managing a class of teenagers in order for them to learn something for the first time is on the dismantling-a-bomb-blindfolded-with-one-hand level of difficulty. You don’t learn how to do this well your first year. Or even your second year. To be honest, I’m still learning.

Many people who aren’t teachers don’t know what it takes to motivate a mob of disaffected fourteen-year-olds. Most people might think we just stand up and deliver some kind of Remember the Titans speech and everyone falls out on the floor and starts learning. When, in fact, it’s more like preparing, then delivering six 50-minute interactive sales presentations back-to-back with 30 + clients in each session, some openly hostile and disruptive.  And you have to convince them to trust you, follow you, to buy what you’re selling. That’s only the first day of the first week. You’ve got 174 more. It’s an unscripted, non-stop, relentless performance of exaggerated proportions.

But here’s what veteran teachers know:  teaching is overwhelming and can, if you let it, overwhelm you. It can bury you. And your students can watch as you collapse.

Or you can be extra.

Extra is one of those words that’s been around the teen smack vernacular for some time now, but doesn’t seem to have abated in usefulness. On Urban Dictionary, my favorite definition (as posted by Performingfartist ) is “Doing the absolute damn most. For no reason.”

I like this definition very much.

When you look at veteran teachers, you have to think: what’s their secret? How have they hung on so long? And I think the answer is in their ability to be mind-bendingly, odds-defyingly EXTRA.

Good teachers are the absolute damn most.  All the time. In your face. Good teachers are sold out to knowledge. They are stoked about the path. They love to learn, and they want their students to love to learn as well.

Can’t understand a concept the first time it’s explained? Extra breaks it down, uses a different approach. Maybe a third or fourth time. With hand puppets. Extra reads a new book over the weekend and can’t wait to tell her students about it. Extra high fives the struggling. Extra learns how to pronounce all the names correctly. Extra knows your mom has chemotherapy this week. Extra collaborates with other teachers, reads professional books, always strives to get better at teaching.

I’m not saying new teachers should do extra things, like stay at school until midnight or spend all weekend lesson planning. That’s madness. I’m saying whatever dream led you to chase this profession, major on that. Social change, writing, reading, community, empowerment, whatever – be that thing.

Extra is a sense of humor, a deep, abiding love for students, a clear-eyed sincerity and earnestness that builds trust. Extra uses tech or gaming or poetry or music. Extra is any means necessary. Extra is every child, every day.

When I think about my colleagues, especially the veterans who have thrived and survived in this profession, it’s because they have fun at their job. They are #ALLIN. My veteran colleagues at Lafayette (Exhibit A: Our science department) break out in song in the middle of class, bring their guitar to class, wear funny hats, make up crazy mnemonics to help students remember content.

In Teachers (1984) my favorite teacher movie, (and by favorite, I mean, most ridiculous), the best teacher in the whole school is a mental patient who is mistaken for the history teacher substitute and spends the whole movie pretending to be George Washington.  How much would you learn about the Revolutionary War if you were being taught by someone who literally believed he was George Washington?

So here’s my Remember The Titans speech for new teachers:   You will get through it.  This, too, shall pass. But don’t give up. Don’t dissolve, wilt, or crumble. Go out with other teachers. Find a tightly-knit, sacred support group where you feel safe.  Wail and scream over iced coffee or buckets of beer if that’s your thing, then get up the next morning, brush your teeth and get after it. Get crazy after it. Get so extra after it that you become the teacher who is the absolute most.

For the best reason ever.





  1. This is amazing! I am also an “extra” teacher and sometimes get told to not be so extra. I really love this. I am a FACS teacher and one of my classes is called Teacher Cadet. They are totally going to read this for an assignment. Thank you for the reminder!

  2. My first couple of years teaching were an incredible, frustrating learning curve. I would have left after two years and taken the offer for a better paying job at an engineering firm where I worked summers, but my principal encouraged me to stay with it. Bless him, for I was blessed to teach and learn for 31 more years. Loved my job (on most days!) and loved teaching struggling middle and high school kids how to ‘do’ math. I wouldn’t trade my career and my colleagues for anything.

  3. Thank you! This has hit home in my district, so, as a veteran teacher I pasted your information with adding my twist to it for our district. Your students jas an understanding of teaching and teacher burnout.

    I took this from another teacher and her amazing writing class. But today we need words of encouragement as school takes off in full swing, another group of young people needing us as we need them, and yes, all the new changes our new administrators request us to do. Remember as a veteran teacher, we to have those out burst, shut downs, and bonding times with friends. We then walk in the next morning or next class and act as if we own our place as the teacher. We go that extra step for students, parents, you the teach next door and ourself. We are their parent, grandparents, advocates, and caregiver. This is not just our job, it is our life. This is a new year look around you, we are there for you.

    The Veteran Teacher

  4. I really miss being “extra” – I taught 38yrs. & have now been retired for 11 yrs. Yes, we travel, golf & visit Grandkids in Chicago & Mnps. – it’s all great…..but oh how I miss being “extra.” At this stage of life..it is about NOT having regrets. Young teachers, if you can/will/are able to be “extra” – just do it! The memories of this honorable profession will continue to give you joy for the rest of your life.

  5. all this expresses and explains total DNA of my daughter…… plus…… thanks for opening up so I could see most clearly who she is…….. my Little Girl……. 1st grade 28 years……….. Extra Extra….. and then Extra……

    • We’ve really always been those things. Yes, we are seeing greater challenges than in the past, in some ways. During the depression, when my mother went to a one-room school, my grandmother made lunches for all the kids. The sense of community was perhaps deeper. Things change. Kids have always had needs beyond the ABCs, or we’d be superfluous.The very best teachers I ever had did not teach me THINGS, they taught me LIFE. I do believe we’ve ended up being OFFICIALLY responsible for more and more, as the social supports have withered and schools have been seen as the place to fill in missing gaps. No teacher who dreams of only imparting knowledge will ever be satisfied with the job, unless perhaps they’re teaching organic chemistry at a university. But even in the university, the teachers that mattered extended far greater pieces of themselves than their mere curricular excellence.

      BTW this article was outstanding!

  6. I have been a teacher for over 60 years and have loved every minute of it. This best part of teaching has not only giving out ideas and stimulating students to create their own ideas but to learn what great things you learn from them.
    I taught in the creative arts in classes and workshops in schools, colleges, churches all across the country and learned that my life has been made so much fuller . Many of my students have gone on to teach and for that I will always feel blessed.
    Although I now have reached 90, young ones still come to my door with questions and hopefully I will be able t help them thru to a solution
    . And so, I never feel lonely and feel blessed that teaching has been my “calling”

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